With friends like these, who needs enemies

[clipps]

Alright, I was hanging out with 4 of my "friends." These 3 guys started to talk **** on us. I stand up for myself while my friends stand back. One of the guys spit in my face so I punch him in the face.I get triple teamed, punched in the face multiple times, had my face shoved in the snow, and had my stomach kicked constantly. While all my "friends" just stood there watching. Damnit. How can you let a friend get his *** kicked 3 on 1 in front of your face? And they had the nerve to say "dude, I wanted to jump in so bad." They ain't my friends anymore.

[Justin]

Thats ****ed man, proper ****ed.

[TheBerserker]

true dat Justin...man, Clipps, forget about those dudes...they ain't nothing but pussys...

[Lil' Diamond]

one frame of Ja Rule's song "Passion": But what's love, when your friends become enemies

man thats hard.... watch out... wich i can give you some of my best friends... thats true friends..

but hey... on this board your got your home boys an gurls...i swear

[Lady Di]

Damn, they were NOT your "friends" in the first place Casey. Now is the time for you to define that word - FRIEND and live by it. If I was there, I'd go cuss each of them punks out for you, all sides. How are you feeling now? Where you able to talk to an adult/family and/or someone you trust about it? Hope so b/c that ish is just not right.

Take care ok? HUGS from Lady Di!!

[clipps]

Fortunately, I do have "true friends". Unfortunately they live in Southern California and i live here in New Mexico. I grew up in Southern California all my life and I had a group of 5 friends that were ALWAYS there for eachother. Those friends stopped me from getting mugged a few times, they always stood up for me when people talked **** on me and I also did the same for them. And we also have a promise that if it's a 1-on-1 fight, none of us jump in unless someone pulls out a knife or something. Even if we're getting our asses kicked in a 1 on 1 fight, no one jumps in. They stuck with me through all the bad times. loyalty is the number 1 thing. I suddenly had to move to New Mexico with my parents 2 years ago when I was 17. The day before I moved was the saddest day of my life because i had to say bye to them and leave the home in Southern California that I was born in. That was the first time they ever saw me cry. That was also the first time I ever saw any of them cry as well. Here in New Mexico, I always made friends that i "thought" were friends but really weren't. Out of everyone here, there was only 1 friend that I made that I consider a true friend. Unfortunately he's in the Army and went to Germany. After that, he's going to Iraq with no time to come back home and see family in between. I'm dreading that.

I've given up making friends here in New Mexico. I don't want to get ****ed over like that again. I called my friends from home and told them the story. They were pissed when they heard about it, but they told me that they liked how i stood up for myself like a soldier and didn't back down and I atleast went down fighting. I also feel good about myself about that. And I know that not only the friends that didn't have my back were pussies, but also the 3 people that kicked my *** were pussies as well. Any time you team someone up in a fight is a ***** move. Only exception is if the one person has a shank or a knife or a gun and is threatining someone's life. It's been 3 days since the incident. I saw the "friends" that let me get my *** kicked by 3 people around town. None of them cant even look me in the eye.

[clipps]

Also a huge reason why I listen to Chamillionaire and Xzibit so much. I don't know about you guys, but I have yet to listen to a rapper these days more true than Xzibit and Chamillionaire.

[ibo]

man that is soo bad for you.. if i were there i'll love yo help :P but for the most of the times i am in a fight with someone no ones stop me... :P but that's maybe cuz the now i can take him :P but i am only getting problem in the school with the 7 grate...

[Lady Di]

Casey - if it helps, let me share something personal as someone who's been where you've been - sorta. I, as a kid, got beat on because of my last name at that time. Kids are kids and can/will be mean thru time. It happened to kids prior to us both and will happen afterwards. How you grow/learn from it is what makes us who we are. I survived that plus loooads more and have went on to live a successful life with all it's intricacies. Made some so called new friends again and still, lived to tell it.

Don't base this one incident for the rest of time and/or people that come into you life. What I would do is just remember this. There have been married people who thought they knew each other oh so well and it wasn't the case, ya know. I was always say this as a life sentence... "you can have many pals, associates and running partners but you have very few friends in life'. Every one is an associate/pal until you gain/they EARN your trust. I hope this helps you b/c the first step was admittance. Next is to continue to learn and definitely forgive.

Di

[ibo]

you dont forgive some idiots that didn't help when some people was hitting you...

[clipps]

I agree. I won't ever forgive these people. Especially now that they were turning it around and trying to say that I'M the ****ty friend for leaving them 20 miles from their homes. Hmmm, when you get your *** kicked by 3 people, and 4 of your friends are watching, not doing anything.... you think they deserve to get left there if you are the driver?

[X2thaZ]

Thats pretty sad really! they are ur friends but they are pussys! a true friend would help u out, even takin a hit 4 u! it all comes down to them "do i want to ruin my rep by gettin bashed"??? its intimidating to get the bash and have every1 look at u differently??? ive takin a bottles, bats, knuckle busters to the head for my friends cos i no they got my back and vice versa! ive never been in ur situation so i wouldnt no how to deal with ur friends but sayin ur a ****in pussy!:mad: i hope u become stronger after all this cos "if it dont kill u, it makes u stronger!" Quote from "Mr Rad" in "You Got Served"

[ibo]

so you don't see them anymore??

[TheBerserker]

I was always say this as a life sentence... "you can have many pals, associates and running partners but you have very few friends in life'. Every one is an associate/pal until you gain/they EARN your trust.

absolutely true...I go by the same philosophy Di...

[Lady Di]

Ok if you don't want to forgive them Casey, then do this - don't harbor the anger. It weighs you down -loads. Let it go, breathe new air and move on with your life. You'll meet more people that are both good and bad, yes, again. Everyone experiences their own beat downs/ups. Whether they are physical or verbal, they feel just the same - BAD!!

You know how as a kid you used to avoid cracks in the side walk for some unknown reason?? There was always a crack you stepped on and never knew it was there. It's life's quirky way of letting you know, the world ain't perfect. Take care doll!!

PS - you left them 20 miles from their homes?? Darned, is that ALL?? (laughs)

Kane - Yep on that quote from the movie. And that same quote has been carried down thru many genrations prior to any us, you can believe that. He's stronger already by making it a public post, ya know. He acknowledged it. ;)

Daniel - you wise one you!! :D

[clipps]

My anger is finally done. One of the dudes tried to say how much of a ****ty friend I was for leaving them there. They didn't know i was around, I got up in his face and decked him and started to wale on him. That **** pisses me off. When they totally **** me over and they say that I'm the ****ty friend. For the past few days, they've been sayin that **** when I wasn't around, but then I heared one of them talk **** so I just had to kick his *** and teach him a lesson. I wish the other friends were there to see it so they know not to **** with me again.

[Lady Di]

I hope your anger is done Casey. Hold your head up and walk away. Be the bigger and maturer person. Talk is always real cheap, it's the action that matters.

[ibo]

yo nice move there :P but are you gonna beat the guys that hit you down front of your "freinds"

[clipps]

I haven't seen those 3 guys since. If i do see them, I won't hesitate.